Your problem does not have to be completely negative. It does not have to be that you’re a pathological liar or something (although, if that’s your problem, you must acknowledge that), hell, your problem could be the complete opposite in your head or on paper. I knew a guy who over time found out he was too nice. Yeah, he was so overtly nice (for whatever reason), that it ended up effecting his life negatively. People found him annoying, they found him suspicious, or just plan too happy to be around. Now, he may be wrong, he may be right, I have no idea. That’s not what this post is supposed to be about. This post is meant to be a call-out to think about what your problem might be, and to work on making it NOT a problem anymore.
First, it’s probably worth me defining what I am calling a problem. I think that for this exercise, a problem is something that hinders your, and/or other people everyday activity. Think of it how they diagnose OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder); everyone has OCD tendencies, but when they begin to negatively affect your life is when you should probably do something about it. So, say you think your problem is something like drinking too much wine. Well, does your wine drinking cause you distress? Are you pissed off and unable to be dealt with if you don’t have it? Do you HAVE to have it? Are you difficult to deal with when you DO have it? Do you think about it all day and base your day around the time when you can finally have it? Well, if you answered yes to any of those (and I am sure there are plenty of other examples of negative effects) then yeah, this could be your problem. If no to all of them, than you know what? Maybe it’s actually not a problem.
Another thing I want to avoid doing here is picking out too many problems. I am certain everyone reading this could begin writing out a list of problems they think they have. But again, that’s not what this post is about. I want to diagnose one problem, so that you can approach dealing with it with a clear head. The second you begin listing off problem after problem you will overwhelm yourself and not be able to help yourself at all.
So, who wants to go first? Well, seeing how I’m writing this, I guess I will. But, I challenge all of you to post to comment about what you think your is. To be honest, I know that there are hundreds of people that read this (and if you told your friends and shared it, there would be thousands… just saying…), and I am really curious to know if my writing is actually doing something for all you. Yes, it’s great to know that people are reading, and I have gotten plenty of positive feedback (oh, and the main negative feedback is spelling and grammar! I am working on that, I promise). But will any of you actually step up and try something I am proposing here? I guess we’ll see…
My problem is that I over-analyze. When something happens to me, or to someone near to me, I break it down into more detail than is necessary. A lot of the times I find that doing this leads me to never act on the issue because all I am doing is thinking about it so much. I will think about how the something occurred and how it could have been avoided or changed. I think about why it occurred and how reactions were and why. I think about the person (whether it be me, or another person) and why they/I would have done such a something, and what would have caused them/I to do it. And my over analyzing tendencies goes so far as to making decisions. I will break down the choices so much that I just can’t do anything. I am a classic “analysis-paralysis” case.
Well, my goal isn’t to give ways to fix you, because hey, I’ no therapist or anything. But what I can do is let you know how I have been working on my problem. First, I was honest with myself about my problem. If I denied ever having one in the first place it would be impossible for me to improve as a person. Second, when I catch myself beginning to over-analyze, I try to stop it as early as I can, and do something that I know clears my mind. Generally it is getting outside and being moderately to very active. The second I do this, I am able to come to a conclusion about what I am feeling very quickly. So, perhaps I do have an answer for you, perhaps I am actually a great therapist in the end! When you find yourself faced with your problem, do something that will put you in a state of calm, happiness. When you are clear of negativity, you will be able to deal with your issues so much better. The cleaner you are, the easier it is to get rid of dirtiness.
This obviously begs the question: what makes you calm and happy? But there I go breaking down the situation way too much. Perhaps a post about that soon? I’m off to the outside world now to clear my head.
Never Stop, GET FIT