In the past couple weeks the institution of CrossFit has had a decent amount of press in comparison to the past many years. A good bit of it has been relatively critical and as entertaining as it has been for me, CrossFit HQ lights up the social media with all sorts of backhanded, argumentative remarks about the articles.
One of the articles was all about something called rhabdo (Rhabdomyolysis) which is a severely serious reaction to incredibly rapid muscle tissue breakdown. This causes all sorts of damaging toxins to release into the bloodstream and leads to some pretty messed up symptoms.
So, CrossFit teaches about rhabdo in their level 1 seminar, and even makes a joke of the condition by having created a CrossFit mascot named “Pukie”. Anyway, some people don’t understand it, others think it’s funny, some think it’s horrible, and some (like me) just choose to ignore it because CrossFit HQ has always tended to push the envelope with political correctness as they grow (maybe they think it’s cool, maybe they think it will attract attention, maybe they’re just a bunch of weirdo’s, who knows, but they’ve ALWAYS done it).
Anyway, I’ve had a handful of people reach out to me about this article and my thoughts, so I thought I’d write a little something about it.
I will give credit to CrossFit HQ on the fact that they actually raise awareness of it at their level 1 seminar. They are one of the only fitness companies that actually teach all about some of the potential issues that training in their style could lead to. Everyone who has gone to a level 1 seminar will have received a base-level understanding of rhabdo and how to prevent it. In fact, I have had some 5 trainer/coach (not CrossFit obviously) friends of mine admit to not knowing anything about rhabdo, so, credit to CrossFit there for sure.
So, because of the attention CrossFit brings upon itself, it’s easy to assume that training CrossFit will inevitably lead to getting rhabdo. It’s simply not true. Any athlete can get rhabdo, check out HERE, and HERE, and HERE. While intense exercise may increase the risk of more negative issues, it should never be a reason to avoid being intense. Sort of a simple statement that everyone has heard a million times, but: CrossFit does not cause rhabdo, coaches/trainers who push their athletes/clients too hard cause things like rhabdo.
CrossFit claims that since all their coaches have been supplied some info on what rhabdo is, they are actually better informed on how to prevent it than most other coaches. While the statement itself is true, to assume that all their coaches actually practice good coaching methods is a pretty broad and, well, dead-wrong assumption. I have met a TON of CrossFit coaches who have no idea what rhabdo is (and also have no idea how to protect their clients, program properly, or teach proper technique to most movements). To assume the thousands of coaches you put through a 2-day seminar actually care enough to remember and put to practice everything you threw at them is pretty ridiculous. And when you make a public joke of the condition by making your mascot a vomiting, rhadbo-inflicted clown, you’re not helping your cause all that much. So it should not be that surprising that people have a few negative, critical thoughts about the company. It appears as though CrossFit harnesses some sort of pride in the fact that their program has been known to potentially really break people down. A lot of people who actually understand health and fitness know that it is not CrossFit in and of itself that hurts people, but irresponsible coaches that do, as mentioned before. There are bad coaches in CrossFit, just as there are bad coaches with many other backgrounds and certifications.
But if CrossFit really has an issue with people criticizing them, perhaps they’d take a few seconds to change their very confrontational approach. Or, they should continue being confrontational (they claim to not intentionally be controversial, but libertarian), and stop acting all confused and annoyed when people question and criticize them.
Or, all of us people need to realize that this is just what they do. The people who run CrossFit have ALWAYS been pretty abrasive. And now that social media is so popular, and the concept of “trolls” has become a “cool” thing for bored people who think it’s fun to stir up conflict; CrossFit has jumped headfirst into it. And it has brought them TONS of attention. And they don’t care if it’s good or bad. They will fight incredibly established companies and people on twitter, they will talk down to established figures in their own community, they will “play dumb” to conflicts they start, and you can watch the comments and attention roll in.
In my opinion, this is a bit unfortunate and seems to be a little counterintuitive of CrossFit. The concepts that CrossFit originally promoted (and that Greg Glassman talks about when speaking publically) have been some of the most influential in the world for promoting health and fitness. Thousands of new, small gyms, eager to help people live better lives and support each other have popped up around the world thanks to CrossFit. It’s a beautiful thing. Many of the best CrossFit gyms that I have been to (the ones with the best coaches, intelligent programming, understanding of true community and support) generally choose to just ignore the actions of CrossFit HQ and continue to do good, staying out of trouble and controversy.
I suggest that if annoying arguments are something that cause you stress and anxiety, just don’t follow CrossFit on Facebook and twitter, and avoid reading the comments on the articles that pop up about it. They have said over and over again that they could care less if you follow them or not (I’m sure this has led to thousands of more followers as another CrossFit HQ employee has stated). If you like to get all worked up and pissed about stuff, read away! They will not disappoint. I personally find it entertaining here and there.
One of CrossFit HQ’s now-well-known employees made a pretty clear statement about CrossFits approach to what they choose to talk about: “Fuck PR”
My personal thoughts?
I personally love CrossFit as a sport. I train for it, compete in it, appreciate the athletes and what they can do, and how entertaining it is.
I coach all my athletes and clients in athletic performance, not CrossFit. Do you know the difference?
I love that CrossFit has helped create so much more attention to health and fitness. We’ve seen pretty dramatic growth in Olympic weightlifting, powerlifting, gymnastics, track, nutrition and general fitness education thanks to CrossFit. That. Is. Awesome!
I’ve made friends and been able to grow my business into two gyms and a pretty successful blog/brand with direct and indirect influences from CrossFit.
I can’t stand the way CrossFit HQ chooses to act. It used get me so worked up that I would get angry (and even now I will sometimes rant on my dislike for them, or allow one of their instigating posts to get me started on a post myself, or even engage them here and there). Now I just avoid their posts if I am feeling like I don’t need more annoying things in my life.
Nothing you or I say will make them change the way they act. So either read their craziness and engage in whatever way you will, or just stop paying attention. But if you want to get worked up, and pissed off, and question why they choose to act like they do; well, you are just wasting your time and energy. Maybe constantly defending themselves and arguing will get old to them, and they will change (I have actually seen a slight shift in wording in that they actually ask for opinions rather than just randomly post stuff with the implication that they endorse it. Also they have been on a kick recently talking more and more about how scaling and modifying workouts are so important to beginners; and understanding proper movement patterns and technique are more important than times. So who knows).
Either way, CrossFit is here to stay, no matter how they choose to act, and no matter how you feel about it and the people that run it. Take what you will from it and try to ignore the crap if it really bothers you. There are plenty of incredible ways to get into health and fitness, choose the one that helps you the most and you’ll probably have a better life. Easy as that!
Never Stop, GET FIT.
PS - If you want to see what I'm talking about with the Facebook and twitter craziness, just spend 5 minutes on either of the those things on the CrossFit page and you'll see. I don't have the patience to link to them (plus, there are WAY too many and I can't choose the best ones)
This past weekend Cullen and I headed out to what would become one of the more interesting days of my life. We were to compete in my good friend Blair Morrison’s 2013 Adventure WOD in Lake Tahoe.
So, late Friday night we drove up to North Lake Tahoe, listening to comedy and chatting business. We got to CrossFit Avalanche around 11:30pm and set up our tent to settle down for a little sleep before our early wake-up. And it came quick. At 5:00am or so we awoke as the owner of Avalanche, Myles pulled in to begin setting things up for the competition and train a client and a class.
Cullen and I got warmed up and hit our toughest day of Smolov squats to date: 10x3 at a heavy, heavy weight (for me I did 415 for 6 sets, 420 for 3 sets and 1 set at 425. Oof!)(by the way, I'll be writing up a big post all about Smolov in a couple weeks).
About halfway through the squats is when the hoards of people began to shuffle in, and things became a little claustrophobic in the small, cold space. And to top things off, we learned that the event was in fact a coed event. This means good ol’ Cullen and I were the only idiots who had a male/male team. Wow. It was fine for us to do all the workouts, but we would obviously not be competing for anything. It became a bit of a joke, and some of the events did not help our cause at all!
The first workout began around 8:30am and it was a 5 minute as many rounds as possible of 3 muscle ups and 10 pull ups. Thanks to my shoulder injury, I hadn’t been on a pull up bar in over a month. So, hitting 50 pull ups in total left me a little torn up. But it felt good to move quickly on the bar.
The second workout started 1 minute after our finish and to add punishment to our stupidity, was an overhead squat, front squat, back squat ladder. Cullen took the girls bars, I took the others, and we were able to get a decent way through the ladder before succumbing more to breathlessness than strength loss. The elevation was crushing. But I hit a overhead squat and front squat at 235 before calling it (again, a little shaky with the shoulder, but ok all around).
Then we all hustled into cars and drove about 5 miles to a hotel where we would begin the unknown and oh-so-mysterious adventure WOD. Things began with a hill run. We didn’t know how long or steep, but it turned out to be probably around 1.1 miles and was freaking steep. Cullen and I took up the rear of course, and I must say, the lack of conditioning caught up to me fast (I’m sure the altitude did not help either). We walked most of the way to the top. Where we had our next surprise.
50 partner burpees (Cullen did 35 of them!), 2 minutes crow pose (Cullen probably did about 1.25 minutes of that), 2 minutes partner plank (Cullen planked on my back while I was on the ground, we did that with only one very quick rest), and 2 minutes of 1-arm handstand holds (I was able to hold him and we did this with only one very quick break as well). We then had to solve a picture problem that showed us two bars, and we had to find the total weight combined on both bars. Got it in about 30 seconds (I love bar math)!
Then it was back down the hill to our bikes. Here’s where things fell apart for us (by us I mean me, and I felt so bad that Cullen had to deal with this). As Cullen switched into his clip-on shoes and I threw on my gloves, the rain began falling down, and only got worse each and every minute from there on out. We jumped on the bikes and about 100 yards in I could feel my left pedal wobbling like crazy. I pulled over to see if I could wiggle it back into place, but 100 yards later the entire crank popped right off the bike! Soooo that sucked! Six miles, in the pouring rain, on a fixed-gear bike with one leg! I was not amused (at the time), and I know Cullen was chomping at the bit (biking is a bit of a forte for him). We finished up, soaked and a bit peeved, at a beach where they had paddleboards lined up at the edge of some rough, rough looking waters. 3-4 foot swells and actual breakers at the shore in a lake, this was going to be interesting. Especially since Cullen and I had to share a board.
The cold. The rain, the crazy rough waters, and the combined weight on the board made this one of the more demoralizing parts of the day. But, we were having a blast at this point, I mean, we might as well!! After that, Cullen took off and I stuck around helping Myles pack up the boards (there was no way I was riding back up hill on that one-legged bike). But, as we pulled up near the gym, I noticed that there were people jumping around at a beach as we passed, I asked Myles if the competition had more parts, and he said yes. Crap! I jumped out of the car and ran the 400 yards to the beach to see if Cullen was there. Sure enough, he had done 50 burpees, 5 wall climbs, and 100 KB swings in the sand without me. And he had done them in his socks because I had his shoes in my backpack, which was still in the truck back at the gym! Man.
I jumped in to get as much of the remaining KB work (squats, thrusters, snatches) before we continued on through the downpour to pick up an insanely heavy sandbag and lug it (as far as we knew) about a mile back to the gym. Crap this thing was heavy; Cullen and I, with our best effort, could only get the thing about 30 seconds at a time. We were SO spent! Luckily we only had to carry it about a half mile before running the rest of the way and finishing up in the heated gym to thaw out and fill our stomachs with tri-tip!
On the way back to San Mateo, it snowed.
As Blair has become known for over the years, this was an absolute blast to be outside in the elements testing our physical and mental limits. So a huge thanks to him for putting on this event (and letting two dudes be a part of it!). But especially, a massive thank you to all the help/volunteers/judges (our judge Chris was such an awesome guy, and had great energy the entire day). I know how rough these inclement events can be (hosting my 2nd Courage Games in freezing weather and pouring rain) so it was an impressive feat to have everyone out there helping and with such high spirits. I’ll have a female partner for next years event for sure!
What a day. I am beyond sore today.
Never Stop, GET FIT.
This is the third guest post on the blog, reaching out to some new resources. You'll see interviews, guest posts, and some more fun stuff over the coming months.
This blog post comes from my longest running client, and now Head Coach the East Coast gym location of Courage Performance, Andrew Whitener. "Whitey" had always been one of the hardest working athletes I ever had. His passion to improve his baseball game was infectious and it was always a joy to train him. When he expressed interest in getting into the training/coaching world, it was a pretty seamless transition. Now, as Head Coach at the East Coast branch, he has taken the responsibility of being the only employee of a portion of this company that I have spent 10 years building; needless to say he jumped right into the deep end, and has been doing a wonderful job! Here is his third post, of many to come!
The Importance Of The "Launch Position"
At Courage Performance, we’re always looking to apply or relate what we do in the weight room to what our athletes do in their respective sports. Understanding that moving with power, coordination, and efficiency in the gym directly translates to moving that way on the field is one of our biggest points of emphasis. We think this is what makes for better athletes, plain and simple.
On that note, I want to highlight one of the many parallels between lifting and playing sports – the importance of what I call the “launch position.” As a former baseball player, my mind usually jumps to baseball when I think about sport-specific applications of movements in the gym. Thus, what I’ll be comparing primarily is the clean/snatch and the baseball swing.
First, a quick note on our programming – all of our athletes do versions of the clean and the snatch (for a multitude of reasons left to another blog post). All of them learn the lifts from the hang position, and are first taught the power versions – catching the bar with the crease of the hip above the knee, instead of in a deeper squat. For beginners, this neutralizes a lot of variables that are difficult to control when pulling off the ground or trying to catch the bar deep, but still allows the athlete to get the athletic benefits of doing such an explosive, yet controlled, total body lift.
For most of our athletes that do hang power cleans and hang power snatches, I consider the launch position to be when the bar is right around the top of the knee (depending on arm/torso length), and the athlete’s next move is up, not down – he or she is loaded and about to begin to pull the bar up. For the baseball swing, the launch position is after the hitter has taken his stride and loaded his hands, so that his next move is aggressively down/forward toward the contact point.
How are these two launch positions similar? Firstly, they are a primer for the explosive movement the athlete is about to make, which is to say the athlete loads up in some way: the baseball player could shift some weight onto the back leg, push the hands a little farther back, and/or cock the wrists, and the weightlifter sits back on the heels, pushes the hips back (thereby allowing the posterior chain to counterbalance and support the weight load), engages the lats, and allows the shoulders to come forward over the bar or a little in front of it. Both athletes build potential energy in preparation of an explosive movement.
Secondly, the athlete is in more control of this launch position than of the explosive movement. I believe that executing a flawless baseball swing to meet a pitch, or performing a perfect clean pull and catch, is more difficult than getting yourself in a solid launch position. There are fewer moving parts, and the priming is less physically demanding than the explosion – it is easier to control.
This brings me to my third similarity – a good launch position sets an athlete up for success. The athlete MUST get the launch part down. One of the most common mistakes I see in novice (and even more advanced) weightlifters is that they rush their “load” when the weights get heavy, which usually causes them to either completely abbreviate or leak their weight forward on their pull, resulting in an inefficient lift. What’s more, I have been surprised, and very pleased, with the amount of improvement I’ve seen among my athletes with a little extra emphasis on getting to a good launch position. We’ve been trying out having everyone start by dropping into a clearly defined high-hang/pocket position (feeling the weight on the heels and establishing some hip and knee flexion), then pushing the hips back from there and allowing the bar to slide down the quads toward the knee. Getting into a properly loaded launch position works wonders! The right muscles are supporting the bar, causing the athlete to feel stronger and in more control, the bar stays close to the body, and thus the athlete is almost forced into executing a more efficient bar path. For the majority of my guys, fixing their launch position has helped far more than trying to adjust the pull or catch itself. Similarly, if an athlete doesn’t get into a good launch position, their chances of efficiently executing a clean or a baseball swing is almost 0! They would have to adjust while being explosive, which is incredibly difficult.
I used a baseball swing as my example, but this theory can be applied to many other sports – a golf swing, a defensive lineman’s pre-snap stance, a basketball player’s elbow and hand position on a jump shot, the list goes on and on. The tougher parts of those moves – the explosive or reactionary parts – won’t always be perfect, but I think it’s often a matter of focus to set yourself up for success. Control what you can control by focusing on your launch position, and I bet you’ll make improvements fast.
Head Coach at Courage Performance East Coast branch
One the most bothersom issues I have come across in my 10 years of coaching in the fitness industry is elitism. I understand it for sure, and I know that I can definitely come across as elitist from time to time. There are so, so, so many joke trainers and coaches, program, gyms, ideas, and so on in this industry, sometimes it’s hard not to think of oneself as “better than the rest”. But, the second you choose to be this way, you immediately become just as much a joke as those things you make fun of all the time. Thousands of athletes have become insanely successful using thousands of different coaches and training protocols. The fact of the matter is, there is more than one way to coach people, and the way you, as a coach chose to do your job is the way you have found works best, for you. And there are more factors involved in this than just the program you write on paper. It’s your personality, the way you talk, the energy you bring, the cues you use, the looks you give, the words your write, and so on. The point is, every single person relays information to other people differently. And every single person hears and processes information differently.
The best coaches are those who do not put down most other training protocols and coaches, thus secluding themselves in their own little world and building conflict in an industry that is supposed to be for the betterment of people. The best coaches are those who band together with those who are passionate like them, even if they approach things very differently. The best coaches are those that choose to learn from others, and promote understanding rather than disagreement.
Working together will help the world become healthier. Creating conflict will help only the people who agree with you potentially become better/healthier. In my opinion, that’s just closed-minded and unfortunate.
What kind of a coach/leader are you?
Never Stop, GET FIT.
Whenever I get to drive a car that has XM radio I will find a comedy channel and listen to comedy. I really like talk radio, and if it’s story telling, or funny stuff, I am game for a good long while. I love Sundays on NPR with all the wonderful talk radio. Like, I honestly have a fantasy about going back in time and chilling with my family in the living room while listening to Dragnet and widdeling something with a knife. Speaking of widdleing, a new project I have just started is carving a bear out of a block of wood with my knife. It may take me years, but it’s really calming to do. Anyway…
Today in the car there was a comedian talking about how cool it is to have a dog because of how simple they are. He talked about how whenever he’s in a pissy mood, his dog runs in and says “hey man, you have a ball?”, and the guy says back, “sure, why?”. And the dog says, “can you throw it?”. And the man says, “ok” and takes the ball and throws it. And just like that the dog is careening through the house, screaming about how excited he is there’s a ball in the house and he’s going to find it and catch it, and bring it back! So he finally catches it and brings it back to the guy and the guy says. “that seemed like fun, what the hell you want me to do now?”. And the dog says, “are you kidding me, throw it again!”. So the comedian goes on to talk about how this inspires him to “find his ball”. As in, the thing that just makes him realize that all his worrying, and negativity, and crap in life probably are nowhere near as important as just letting it all go and having a little fun.
My “ball” is the woods. I’ve known that for years. I’ve written about that endlessly here and I cannot think of anything else in this world that makes me feel like being in the woods does. There are plenty of things that make me feel good, right, awesome, cared for, happy, etc. But the woods make me feel human. I feel like my most natural self there, and it’s very hard me to be negative, have tons of stress, and all that crap when I am feeling 100% like my natural self.
What’s your “ball”?
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While I didn’t have any direct connection with anyone who died on this day, I share in the sadness that so many of us feel that this sort of thing happened so. That people would be driven to destroy so many lives is beyond me. But this sort of thing has happened since as long as history has been written.
Perhaps while we all take a moment to mourn the losses of the many people who died on this day 12 years ago, we can also take a moment to realize that it’s a lack of understanding and overly aggressive reactions that have lead to literally millions of unneeded deaths “in the name of…” over our existence Maybe take a moment to think about whether or not you want to do your part by choosing to be a little more understanding, and kinder towards other people.
Perhaps we can pay our respects to all those who have so horribly died by taking the time to be helpful, kind, supportive, understanding, and good. Perhaps you’ll be surprised at how much better your life, and the lives around you could be.
Never Stop, GET FIT.
As you all know now, I had wonderful weekend last weekend out in the Adirondacks in upstate NY. This post I just wanted to share some of the stuff Lindsey and I did while in this awesome area of the country, and as I generally tend to do, share some more insight into just how great it is to connect with nature, and disconnect from technology.
Driving north on 87 from Albany is an absolutely incredible dive. It reminded me of some of the other more memorable scenic routes I’ve taken. While I can’t remember the actual roads on most of them, I vividly can recall the drive from DC towards Tennessee being breathtakingly beautiful. There was the winding road headed East out of Torrey, Utah with its massive red rocks to the left and peaceful river to the right. The vast majority of Route 1 along the California coastline, and of course, The Avenue Of The Giants up near Eureka, CA, a 30ish-mile shaded drive through the massive redwood trees. But headed into the largest national state park in the country is pretty damn impressive.
Stop one was the Adirondack Extreme Adventure Park. This a wonderfully exciting and seemingly endless ropes course park hidden in the forest and as these sorts of places always tend to do, left me exhausted and exhilarated. There really is something about being up in trees that makes me feel so much more human, and when I get to spend 3 hours swinging around and navigating crazy obstacles high above the forest floor, my human levels soar! The two best parts of this place for me was the rope swing into a cargo net, and hanging out on one of the platforms with Lindsey, taking a break and eating some beef jerky while looking out into the expanse of trees.
We hit Lake Placid (which by the way, is the name of the town. The actual lake there is called Mirror Lake) in the early evening, checked into our hotel and hit up The Lake Placid Pub and Brewery. Basically your classic brewery with burgers and beers and such, but with the local, small lake-town feel that everything in the area seemed to have. We then spent the evening strolling through downtown and checking out some of the local shops. All of which had plenty of bear paraphernalia, which got me pumped up. Or perhaps it was the chocolate mint fudge. Either way, it was a great street, lined with shops, restaurants, bars, and cafes. And no matter where you walked it seemed like the lake was just a head-turn away. Pretty nice
Saturday we woke up to a rainy morning. But it was fine by us as we slowly got our stuff together and headed over to eat a substantial breakfast at The Breakfast Club. Them it was off to the woods. Wait a sec, before that we visited the Olympic Games site and strolled around, then stopped for coffee and homemade donuts at the ADK Market in Keane (we later stopped back to this tiny town to explore a taxidermy shop, then hit up an off-the-beaten-path creek to run around and throw things in the water. Yet another thing I will never miss an opportunity to do as it reminds me of childhood and how naturally freeing it is to simply throw rocks into water).
Our hike location was on a complete whim, but as Lindsey and I tend to do, we just reacted to how we felt and picked a trail. It could not have been more perfect for our timing and the weather. A 45-minute hike up to the top of a waterfall that we will remember for the rest of our lives.
Now the number one thing I will suggest to people who ever plan a visit to Lake Placid (number two being the donuts at the ADK Market) is to get yourself a seat at Chair 6. Besides the fact that they were so incredibly helpful and generous in letting our party take over the entire place on Saturday night of Labor Day weekend, this place officially goes in the top 3 best places I’ve ever eaten! They had a menu stocked with incredibly high quality meats, poultry and seafood along with some really interesting and wonderful tasting veggies and other sides. Their specials menu was about as large as their main menu, which was unreal. I enjoyed myself a unique beet salad as a starter, and rack of boar as my main course. Their drink list was lined with some local drink makers along with some small wineries and breweries (much to my brothers surprise they had Left Hand Brewery beer which is located only a few miles from his house in Longmont, CO). Then, to top it off, their desserts were to die for (I had a gluten free almond based cake with chocolate, it was SO good!). Service was great and the atmosphere was like you’re eating a fine dinner right in a quaint little home. Well, it seemed like that because we WERE in a quaint little home. It was awesome!! Definitely give Charlie a ring and check this place out.
We finished up our time in this wonderful little town by going for a run around the lake, eating some more donuts (yes!!), and then hanging down by the small beach with my nephews and cousin. Then, on our way out we took a quick trip up to the top of the old ski jumps. Ho. Ly. Crap. I can imagine doing a great deal of crazy things but I could NOT imagine myself flying off one of those things on skis!
Anyways, along with proposing to my beautiful now-fiancé, this ended up being one of the most perfect weekends of my life. I know we’ll be headed back to this area on a regular basis to enjoy everything the city has to offer. I highly recommend it. And that was that! Prepare for a few weeks of good training and fitness posts!
Never Stop, GET FIT.
I have two posts to write, one that will be filled with some pretty deep emotional and personal stuff, and one that will be just a nice little write-up on an awesome area. Wasn’t sure which to write first, but I’m feeling a little overflowed with incredibly wonderful emotions so I think I’ll write that one first!
This past weekend will officially go down as one of the greatest weekends of my entire life. I planned out this huge weekend up around Lake Placid, NY to spend with Lindsey and it went down without a hitch. In fact, I can’t really think of too much else that would have made it better. Getting down onto one knee in front of the girl I love felt like the most natural thing in the world. And every second since that moment I have felt more fulfilled and relaxed in the direction I, and we are headed than ever before. This is exactly where I am supposed to be in my life.
Lindsey and I have been through a lot. We’ve had our ups and downs. We even spent some time apart a bit ago. But in the end there was something deeper than our surface issues that kept us connected. And this fueled the need to work things out. This “something” between us gives me every bit of confidence in us spending the rest of our lives together, and having a wonderful family. I feel a deeper connection with this girl than with anything I have ever imagined. She makes me the best version of me. She relaxes me. She makes me feel comfortable and confident in public and when it’s just us. It’s cheesy as hell but when she smiles I can literally feel every single stress in my life just disappear. I have heard so many sappy love songs and read so many Renaissance-ian poems describing this sort of thing and I always liked the idea, but I never thought it to actually exist in my life. But it does. Say what you will, I told you this post was going to be an emotional and personal one.
This awesome girl drives me to get better every single day. Sometimes she says the most insightful things that open my eyes to new ideas I’ve never thought of. Sometimes she says stuff that bugs me to the core and lights a fire of energy in me to figure out just what the hell is going on and how to work through it. I cannot explain how important it is to me to spend the rest of my life with a person who forces me to use my mind in every single way possible on a regular basis. She does this.
I am so happy to know that we have found each other and have worked through so much to be where we are today. I know we’ll go through so much more in the coming years and I look towards all that with so much excitement. But right now I am just excitedly experiencing each moment, knowing that my girlfriend is now my fiancé. I am happy. I am so happy.
Lindsey, sorry if this is a bit embarrassing, I needed to share it all. To all my readers, sorry to get all sappy; probably won’t happen again for a while, but all this deserves to be stated. I hope everyone in the world gets to experience the way I feel right now at some point in their lives. Even if it’s just for a second.
OK, rainbow-y romantic, emotional stuff over! Back to the gym for some iron tossing and beard growing!!!
Never Stop, GET FIT.
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