"It is great that you are so passionate about these competitions but don't let it get to your head, man! Use it to be surrounded by others who are passionate as well and to continue to push yourself and test yourself, but all the time, no matter how it all turns out, know AT HEART you are a winner when you feel like a winner."
My sister wrote that to me at the end of an email in response to my pity-party post the other day. Pretty insightful if I do say so myself. And well timed as well. I had spent most of the day and night yesterday thinking about failure and goals and on and on. And this email from my sister was a little extra tug in the right direction. I challenge myself so much (as do most people) that if we ultimately decide to measure our self worth by the amount of times we "stand on the podium", we will be pretty miserable people. I have always preached that you can not rely on outside sources for happiness, positivity, and confirmation. You must choose to BE happy, positive, and feel confirmed. Winners FEEL like winners, they don't need the best score to tell them they are.
The large failure that took place for me this past weekend had me thinking about so much. I came out of it thinking that my God, I AM a winner. Screw the awards, the podiums, the medals, the pats on the backs, and so on. Nobody out there knows the struggles I go through, the challenges that I am faced with day in and day out, and how hard I push. The fact that I wake up every day and push as hard as I do is what makes me a true winner. Physically winning at something is a here-and-there reward of good, hard work, but is not the end all be all. I say this because no matter how many times I've been the actual winner, it never actually satisfies or fulfills me like I expect it to. I step down, go home, eat some food, and I'm back to training the next day. If I lost the event, I would step away, go home, eat some food, and get back to training the next day. Those events help to steer what I'm doing in every day life, but they do not define me. And what I am doing in every day life is what matters the most. The second I use my placement as the ONLY dictator for who I am as a person, I lose myself. I am not saying that being competitive is a bad thing at all, I am saying that it is dangerous to rely solely on those competitions to define yourself.
In all honesty, I think it's the time between events that truly define winners and losers. In my mind, a person who is incredibly talented but spends their days eating like crap and playing video games is a loser. I don't care if they can all of a sudden walk out to a baseball field and go 4 for 4 or throw 95, that just makes them damn lucky. It's the people who put in the hours, who take it seriously, who focus their lives to always want to be better day in and day out who are the winners. The ones who learn every day while also working their tails off. The ones who understand why they are working and learning, and do it because they love it and are so passionate about the process. Yeah, those people are freaking winners.
We are all allowed to wallow in self-pity now and again. But if you have made a point to let your life define who you are, not the awards and achievements, you will probably spend most of your life pretty happy, satisfied and fulfilled. I am still pretty bothered and disappointed in myself about The Open. But you know what I'll be doing today? I'll be in the gym, back on my program, laughing and sweating with my training partners. This week I'll be out in the woods a few times, running up hills so hard my head swims. I'll climb some trees, I'll coach my clients, I'll cook my food, I'll read my hundreds of articles, and I'll watch my TV shows. I love my life because I have found the things I am passionate about and made a point to surround myself with as much as I possibly can. I'll push my limits every day because it makes me feel good, because I learn from it. I'll fail, all the time; and I'll succeed, all the time.
I think all that makes me a winner.
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