You know what, the world isn't angry, the people are angry. There is so much anger in the world it's sometimes overwhelming. But it's not new, people all over the world have been angry for as long as we know.
Anger is an emotion that gets a reaction. We all feel it, every single one of us. We all see anger around us, every single day in some shape or form. And most of us have no clue what to do about it. Interestingly enough, anger in one usually inspires anger in the people around them, it's just that sort of emotion.
We express anger when we don't get our way, when we feel trapped and not in control. We express anger when our thoughts and ideas are not validated and we are treated differently and less than we feel we deserve. We express anger when we feel wronged, betrayed, hurt, and insulted. And we express our feeling through anger because we don't know how else to do it, and became it forces people "hear" us.
There is nothing fundamentally wrong with anger, it's just another emotion that all people feel and express. What's wrong is when anger is expressed in a manner that hurts others for the sake of our own emotional self-preservation.
When we lash out at another person, or groups of people because we feel we've been wronged in some way, and we want those around us to feel the same way we do.
When we selfishly force our own emotions on others because we don't have the capacity to deal with our own issues in a healthy and productive manner, we make things worse. Always.
This can be said for ALL emotions, even the "good" ones. If you try to force someone going through a rough time to be happy, you'll probably create conflict. Things associated with positivity are not always good. People need to feel what they are going through, and being forced to feel something else, even if it's happiness, or joy, might not be a very good thing for them at the time.
So we all have a choice. Knowing that we all feel anger, we have a choice to learn to express it in a way that doesn't hurt or bring others down. And knowing that others feel anger, we have a choice to react to theirs either by matching and ultimately adding to their anger, shoving an opposing emotion down their throat, or by helping and supporting them.
What you choose to put into the world, and into others, is 100% on you. No other person has that sort of control over you, no matter what you think. If someone is screaming in your face, you actually do not have to scream back. You really don't.
And how do we control our own anger? Learn to express it in a less harmful manner.
If you're pissed off because work is stressing you out, don't take it out on your friends and loved ones, they are your support.
If things are falling down around you and it seems like you have no control, take the time to understand what you can control and accept what you can't.
If a small group of people decide to lash out and act out of anger, don't close your doors on ALL people because of the actions of a few.
Adding anger to somebody already angry NEVER helps or works. Never.
You have a choice. Help yourself and the people around you to understand and grow from an angry situation, or add to the anger and fuel the fire of conflict.
What kind of person will you be?
Never Stop, GET FIT.
The picture above is of my two friends Mike and Mario. Last weekend they were down in SoCal with a group of people running one of those Tough Mudder races and this picture was taken of them helping a friend over a wall (apparently the girl had been trying and trying to get up on that wall and just could not do it). What's even better is there are a couple guys helping Mike and Mario help the girl! Awesome all around.
I've been thinking a lot about the concept of teamwork. There are so many angles to go with this and I think what hit me is that the concept of having a team to support you and that you can support through life is absolutely needed. A good family is a team, a solid group of training partner's business partners, a small group of friends, and so on, all a team. I've been part of really great teams before, and, some pretty damn crappy ones. And through all my team experience, I've figured out a few things:
First off, everybody needs to be part of a good team. You will be held accountable, you will push a good bit harder to be successful at all the things you and your team want, and you'll most likely find success a lot faster. And the best teams will all be there for you no matter what.
My latest team is the creation of Team Courage. We are a small group of athletes so far, but growing surprisingly quickly. My goal is that we all help each other as we grow no matter what. While I may be the head coach, I have built the expectation in the group that all of our voices are just as important and we can all feel comfortable sharing our ideas, thoughts, coaching tips, and suggestions. There is a warm feeling knowing that I have a group of awesome athletes that I can support at all times, and that will support me at all times. It's freaking awesome! I know that when I am struggling through a workout, or with my nutrition, or feeling unmotivated, I'll have at least one of the guys getting after me to make sure I stay on my game. If I can't get over that wall, I know they will all be there to help me up. And they all know that no matter what, I'll be there to help them up.
This is what teamwork is all about. If you don;t have a team in your life, I suggest you go find one that fits your needs perfectly. If you have a crappy team, get the hell off it ASAP! And if you are part of an awesome team, rock on and keep getting better!
Never Stop, GET FIT.
The program I am on these days has been calling for some pretty awesome core exercises; and, along with my personal additions I am feeling stronger and stronger through my midsection every day! Windmills (like the pic above), unilateral farmers walks,jackknives, Pallof press, and weighted roll outs all demand such unique engagement of the core, and the structure of them all has had insane results. I have also added 2-3 times per week a little ab and push up routine along with my morning runs. I hit toes to bar, straight sit ups, GHD sit ups, bicycle crunches and some planks here and there with those. Then 2-3 times per week I do the two transverse abdominal exercises suggestion by Tim Ferriss in The 4-Hour Body. The conclusion? Do core work people!
Of course I could go on for days geeking out about the best stuff to do and why certain things are better for you depending on who you are and what you need. But this is all about just throwing out the idea that core work should NOT be passed over. You don;t need to do it as much as I am doing it, hell, just mixing in some basics throughout the week would suffice. But don't avoid any of it. A weak core will result in weak lifts and most likely some form of injury, very quickly.
Add a little circuit of planks, side planks and mountain climbers (4 rounds of 30 seconds each) post-workout, and just like that, good things begin to happen!
My workouts today started off with some 60% 40 meter sprints (8 of them), some modified handstand push ups, some toes to bar, some hurdles, some bar skin the cats and that was it! Then later, I hit deadlifts (5x1 at 447#) and some additional posterior chain support along with band resisted jackknives. Then it was a 7-mile bike ride on my single speed to have dinner with Ori, and 7 miles back! An wonderfully active day!
Never Stop, GET FIT.
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